August 15, 2010

End Self-Doubt and Stop Sabotaging Yourself!

When things get hard in your world, do you reminisce and wish that you could return to a more simple time? It is quite normal to cope with current challenges by wishing them away and escaping to happier times. But so often we forget that those past times weren’t so happy after all. We fantasize about the past because we feel trapped by our present and afraid for our future.

Watch for the signs - Doubt is sneaky; it masks itself by encouraging you to choose what you “should” do, to make the easier choice or the mindless choice. Doubt makes you choose against your intuition.

Doubt might start small but after several choices you wake up and realize that you have moved so far away from your dream that you have sabotaged your real efforts!

How do you know when doubt has entered your thinking?


Doubt is in control when you feel heavy, irritated, confused and anxious. Doubt is in control, when you can hear your thoughts saying, “I can’t do that.” And then you believe the justifications!

A sure way to kill a dream is to have self-doubt; it is devastating to any growth that is percolating just beneath the surface. If things aren’t happening the way you want them to or as fast as you want, you must not allow doubt to enter your mind. Instead shift your attention back to the moment and put your attention on what you want – your dream.

Sometimes, it is hard to accept but we can’t have everything we want all at once. There is a natural growth process – a seedling can’t all of a sudden become a full grown tree and support a family of birds in a nest – there is a process.

Surrender your Plan and Trust the Process

If you can’t change your situation all that is left is to accept it, and then keep practicing acceptance.

Do your best to let go of the way you think your life should be and repeat to yourself the affirmation frequently: I accept. When you let go of trying to control the situation, the struggle will dissipate and the stillness and beauty will surround you. By choosing to accept your situation you will be simultaneously choosing grace and peace, which is a beautiful environment for your dream to blossom.

Hold your dreams close to your heart and practice taking care of yourself regularly showing yourself love in every moment.

"Even within the seemingly most unacceptable and painful situation is concealed a deeper good, and within every disaster is contained the seed of grace." ~ Eckhart Tolle

Embrace your Life! Enjoy the process and be gentle with yourself.

Much love to you,


Kelly MacLellan M.Sc.

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